My Reflection and Coming to Terms With What I See


 WHERE HAVE I BEEN?!?!   :)
I have been working on ME! I’ve been a bit quiet because I thought, how can I movtivate if there is some question in me that I’m not doing enough?

Then it hit me – across the head like all things seem to – HARD! I needed to look in a mirror. I remember being told to do this in grad school as a personal development project. Look in the mirror, even if it just for 1 min..and just DEAL with yourself.  Don’t say a word, don’t let yourself be interrupted. Do you like what you see? What comes to mind? What makes you anxious? What can you do?  Then ask yourself..what are you doing?
 
I did this and almost cried.  I have so many dreams, I love the lives I touch, and I love the progress I’ve made but I’ve been made for more. FEAR holds me back. Fear of upsetting people, fear of failing and the shame that follows that. Fear of not being enough. Wow. I couldn't believe I was ready to own and overcome that.

So how do you get over fear? You look it in the face and say MOVE! I have no fear that's BIGGER than my Dreams! By getting THROUGH my fear, I get TO yours. And that’s where help and healing begins - for us all.

We all have fears..but look at it, push it away, then move on.

Im not much of a poet but I wrote this about this experience…

 
My Mirror – My Life
“I look in the mirror  - I think this is me
(I own you)
It looks like someone I know I should see
(You know me)
She sorta smiles, she sort of cries
(I win)
She looks like she’s ready to wave goodbye
(Stop losing)
I look in her eyes, and see the trials
(You?)
And then I realize, they hide behind smiles
(You’re enough)
One minute passes, then there were two
(GET GOING!)
I see the me that was the you. “
-          Jessica Jenkins, 2014

 

I’ll work on itJ

Love and peace!!

Comments

Unknown said…
Greatness. Going to go look in the mirror now :)
March 11, 2014 at 10:32 AM
JessVictor said…
Yay!!! Glad you read this my friend! I know you're liking what you see!!
March 11, 2014 at 6:36 PM
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